"Q: What have been the reactions from men to this book? A: One looked grim and said this is a cause of deep concern; another said, “This scared the bejesus out of me.” It says something that men may not want to think about and that men have a lot to worry about." Hey, guys? If you want to know what the women in your life want...don't be afraid, try listening to them.
Q&A: Author Dan Bergner on What Women Want (Hint: Not Monogamy) | TIME.com (TIME.com)
For a long time, we have as a society told ourselves a kind of fairytale about male and female desire, that males are programmed for spreading cheap seed around, for promiscuity, and females desire relationships, with some exceptions.
We’re speaking in generalities here, but on average, we’re told that women are sexually programmed to seek out one good man and thus more suited to monogamy. That seems so convenient and comforting to men and so soothing to society, that we can rely on women as a kind of social glue.
That is one of many things we need to look beyond because the evidence for that is thin at best.